Is Finding Love in today's society A Myth?
Okay so, I can only speak from the female perspective, but given my experience as a millennial in the current dating landscape, I have decided that finding love in 2021 may be equivalent to trying to find a needle in a haystack. As a woman of color who makes the money required to pay my bills and treat myself, is educated enough to know what I know and know when I don’t know enough to speak on a topic and requires emotional stability and intelligence in anyone I choose to share a relationship with, the pickings are slim! I refuse to believe that the men I am running into are the same men that Destiny’s Child was catering to. Social media has been a gift and a curse in that it gives us access to so many more people, but it also gives you a deep dive into the mind of a person in a way you may not have been able to pick up on if you had just met them at a bar on a regular night out. Needless to say, once I see your tweet about women belonging in the kitchen or constantly posting sexually explicit content on your IG story, you are crossed off my list of potential suitors.
Although this can be discouraging if you are a woman who wants to get married and have a family, I do think there are some advantages to being aware of what you want and don’t want, and being okay with being alone. Once you find peace in knowing that what is for you cannot and will not pass you, you move through the dating scene in a way that will only attract that. If you aren’t finding what you are looking for out there, stop looking and let it find you. Pour your time and energy into bettering yourself, improving your experience in this world, and controlling the narrative of your life. As women, we have to let go of the idea that if we aren’t married with children by 30, that we have somehow failed, because that isn’t the case. Whether you find love at 25 or 45, it will come to you when you are ready for it. In the meantime, enjoy the single life ladies, date yourself, love yourself, and don’t let the fear or loneliness push you into the arms of someone you aren’t aligned with. Love is all around you and within you and the sooner you know that for yourself, the happier you will be with whatever your current relationship status is.